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malspie
December 11th, 2008, 03:38 AM
Through this exchange of letters, I want to throw spectrum on the aspect of thousands of old couples who are left to live a life of their own couting the dollars which gets credtited to the Indian account from their kids!


Exchange of Letters- A MUST READ

Dear Pop,

I am very sorry to hear about mom’s ill health. During my last visit I had asked her to get her check ups done regularly and she had nodded in affirmative and this news is real shock to me. I could sense the distress you are going through my dear Pop and I really wish I was there with you. My presence would not make any changes in the situation but would give you some support.

I spoke to my seniors and they have refused to give me any further leave as we have a client presentation and I am representing the company. I may have to proceed to Germany and am shouldering responsibilities which are not so easy to shudder. I am feeling guilty about not being present with you but your effort of nurturing my future would also go in vain if I throw this opportunity in the air. So please try to understand me and forgive me for being selfish if its so. I am have already wire transferred 10,000 USD and hope it would be of great help to you. You have always been a strong man and am sure you will not succumb to the pressures. You have thought us to be optimistic and the same goes true today. Mom should be fine. Take her for the best of advice from senior doctors and get her the adequate treatment, please remember that money is and will never be an issue. I have got few telephone numbers from my friends of nurses on hire for terminally ill patients. You can reach them and hire one so that they can be of some help to you. Also look out for some help for cooking, do not torture your tired bones.

I spoke to Mansi and she too is busy with the exams of her children. Her sis-in-law is coming down from Switzerland and she has to be a good host for some time. After the exams she has enrolled her kids for vacation studies and she has also put forth her regret of not joining you but has conveyed her earnest prayers for Mom. In fact, she was choking on the other end when she spoke to me last night. She may call you up today and please do not worry her much as she has been very sensitive right from childhood. My mobile is always ON so that you can reach me at any time.

I will try to make it after I return from Germany, but that would definitely take a month or two. Please Pop, forgive me for being away from you. My prayers for the well being of my mom and for strength for my Pop will be there for sure.

Dear Son,
(from your father)I received your good wishes and prayers and was happy to know about your new assignment. I said a small prayer to the lord to give you success in all that you endeavor. I tried calling you up many times but your phone was switched off, I suppose, or may be you were traveling and were “out of range”. I also tried Mansi and she too was not reachable. I decided to cremate your mother quietly and would love to tell you she passed away peacefully. She always had a habit of writing letters to her children. During her last days, she was unable to write to her kids so she dictated it to me feebly and I have jotted down her words. If you have time please read hereon:


Dear Son,
(from your mother)
I understand that you were always ambitious in life and when I came to know about your new venture, my feeble hands trembled but surely raised for a prayer for the well being of my two beautiful kids. Mansi’s kids exams will go well and they will pass with flying colours. You too would grab the promotion and make your parents proud my son. I have no regrets of you not coming down, in fact proud of having such wonderful children to whom duty stands first. May be this time, it would be a bit late as I may not be able to meet you again. God gave me the opportunity to carry you both in my womb, go through the wonderful feeling of motherhood and raise you both as such responsible kids. I hope you have carried your leather jacket with you my dear on your trip to Germany. The money that you have been sending for us is intact in the account as we were never waiting for it. The calls that were made to you were always to hear your voice and not ask for help. I have knitted a lovely sweater for you, do not forget to ask your Pop for it. I have made your favorite pickle; in case, you happen to fly down, do not forget to carry it. Mansi wanted an Ayurvedic medicine for indigestion. I had asked my friend to call in for it. She had got it for me a couple of weeks ago. Later, I was admitted in the hospital, but your dad is aware, please do not forget to collect it from him. Also the CD of your last visit to us is ready and we have been watching it whenever we miss you and Mansi. I had asked your dad to write the CD so that both of you too can add it to your memory shelf. I thank God for this life and am happy to move to the next stage. Your Pop will be lonely and that’s what is worrying me now. I had called for an admission form from the nearest “Old Age Home” so that he can admit himself there and have friends to spend rest of his life.

Thank you kids for being so wonderful.
Yours Ever Loving
Mom.

ashmita
December 11th, 2008, 07:41 AM
This story is touching. Tears rolled down my cheeks as I was reading it. At the same time I was very angry ...
We have forgotten all our family values and culture running after money and luxury

malspie
December 11th, 2008, 09:37 AM
Hello Ashmita,

Thanks for reading my post and giving your feedback.

It is the real picture of many houses in the Metro and may be in the interiors too.

aparnash12
December 12th, 2008, 06:21 AM
Mals
I know one of my neighbour went through similar story. It is shame.

malspie
December 12th, 2008, 07:37 AM
Hi Aparna,

Thank you dear for stepping in. There are many old couples who are in similar situations in life and suffering quietly.

pannu2000
December 14th, 2008, 08:56 PM
Mals
It is sad but we see people going through this type of situations.Thanks for throwing light on this.

malspie
December 15th, 2008, 02:01 AM
Hi

The silent tears of parents go unnoticed, it is a sacrifice they give for the well being of their children.

Thanks for being here.

Anita
December 15th, 2008, 07:21 PM
Mals
It is very touching story. I guess everybody must be knowing somebody or the other going through similar situations. My heart goes for the parents who has to face this type of situations.

malspie
December 16th, 2008, 01:08 AM
Hi Anitha,

Most of the old couple are in similar situations in todays world.

Children have taken a separate corner and aged parents are nursing their tears.

ANKIE
December 17th, 2008, 06:08 PM
Mals!

That was a total Tear-Jerker! So very true! So sensitively portrayed!


Ankie

malspie
December 18th, 2008, 03:12 AM
Thankyou Ankie

Tweety
January 8th, 2009, 11:12 AM
I too have seen many parents fighting their old age all alone. They have reached an age where money and the luxury that comes with it does not mean anything to them.

All that they seek is love and affection from their kids and grand kids, but do all of them get it!

Some are confined to exchange letters only.

Mals, you rock dear, how come you come out with such beautiful topics.

malspie
January 9th, 2009, 02:15 AM
I too have seen many parents fighting their old age all alone. They have reached an age where money and the luxury that comes with it does not mean anything to them.

All that they seek is love and affection from their kids and grand kids, but do all of them get it!

Some are confined to exchange letters only.



Your feedback has explained what I want to say, thanks Tweety.

devika235
January 9th, 2009, 06:54 AM
Mals your story was very touching. It is reality now a days. Parents haev to spend their old age by themselves with little or no help from childrens.

malspie
January 9th, 2009, 09:44 AM
Parents make huge sacrifices for the happiness of their kids and some of them do not even want to move their little finger in return.

Thanks Devika for stepping in with a feedback.

ashmita
January 10th, 2009, 06:29 PM
You have written the bitter reality of the society very nicely. Thanks for posting

malspie
January 11th, 2009, 11:12 AM
Thank you Ashmita

sabmeh
January 11th, 2009, 03:24 PM
Mals it is sad reality. In foreign countries parents dont live with kids but goverment provides all the help and system is good for taking care of old people. Although family cannot be replaced by the system.
I have seen some changas in foreign culture that many families prefer to live very near to the parents. I know 3 families from USA (goras) who live next door to parents.
May be we are adapting foreign culture and they are adapting our culture.

malspie
January 12th, 2009, 02:14 AM
Hi Sabmeh,

Parents are not looking for money and comfort though it also becomes an essential ingredity to life a good life, they have reached a threshold where love and affection are the only things that matter!

Who else can compensate the affection of their own kids!