live and let live

[dr.jyoti gupta]

if we want freedom for our selves,why do we create obsticles for others?every one needs a space for breathing.unfortunately,we love to rule over those whome we love the most.the most demanding relationship is that of a husband and wife,together forming a couple.now it totally depends on our wisdom to let it deterroriate or to make it bloom with time passinig out.
these two people,have no blood relationship,but still together!you can say,this is destiny.right! why some couples are the happiest ones,and some sadly depart?actually, they have learned to accept each other as they are!they also respect their personal freedom.
even,if you have a past,why not forget and move towards a fresh new tommorrow?why dont we try to learn to forgive?if you can forgive your sis for any offence,then why not your husband/wife?
if,something goes wrong,if your partner betrays you,try to patchup.RAAT GAYI,BAAT GAYI!i bet,you will feel much lighter.afterall,we have tied bands of togetherness for our whole life.the threads shouldnt be so fragile that they break at the slightest twist!
if any one of the readers,unfortunately, are at the edgeline,of this beautiful relationship,think it over again!

[sunidi12]

I wish everybody lived by that rule "Live and Let live" .
My friend has filed for divorce after 10 years of marriage. She dicovered that her husband has ben cheating on her for last 5 years. Now she realized all the tantrums,"nakharas" and complaints he used to do. It is not easy to forgive everytime.

[dr.jyoti gupta]

i a sorry to be late in replying b'cause the servers were down.i can feel the agony and pain of being cheated since i have been through too.ther are only two ways in such situations.either to seperate or to live together.in the other case,compromise (to any extent) will surely hurt our self respect.so if the situations are not under control,if the other person is not ready to apologise,DIVORCE is the only solution to teach a lesson.
i wish this is not the only end for all such stories.

[tulsi34]

Dr. Jyoti I agree to your point. Marriage is the beautiful relationship but if better half does not see it and becomes worst half then the person is left with limited choices.

[dr.jyoti gupta]

dear tulsi,
it is very easy to break apart,thanto built a relationship,it takes years.who knows,one has to repent if one finds someone even worse.so we should think over and over before making such a hard decision.
regards,
jyoti

[mistydisa]

One has to take tough descions in life if the better half is devil.
I agree with Jyoti that "It is better to be with known devil than unknown"

[dr.jyoti gupta]

dear friend,
some times,we have to compromise for our children also.a mother is a mother and father has his own importance.a child needs both.so,if we have to sacrifice our self for the better future of our child,i think it is very important to stay together rather than seperating.

[surekhapar]

Separation is the misery and everybody should try their level best to live together and sacrifice for the family and children. At the same time if situations are worst it is better to raise children in healthy environment. It all depends on situations. Nobody like to break the marriage. Circumstamances force people to take this tough desicion.

[dr.jyoti gupta]

yes,very true.hence,one should think over all the concequences and then take a decision.divorce is a bad dream which everyone dreads to have.

[jampatil]

Nice Fb's gals as we are looking at the same issue in all the directions with open mind.

[dr.jyoti gupta]

dear jampatil,
i think you are getting positive vibes from your wellwishers.take care.
jyoti

[easycrafts]

Jyoti..u have started an interesting thread..got some time today to see some really interesting threads that have been discussing much before I joined NS..Regds this thread, I think it all depends on the level of maturity and what way we want to deal with such situations..Hardly does anyone's advice work in such situations..

[dr.jyoti gupta]

dear suchitra,yes,i think that a couple should be able to resolve such matters.if a third person interferes,the situations may get worse.

[sabmeh]

selecting the right perosn of advice is very important. Soem advice may put your relationship into fire rather than helping it.

[Rekha]

Jyoti, this is really a good topic for the relationship between the couples.. Yes to maintain this relationship we should accept each other as we are... We should get some space and freedom to each other...:)

[dr.jyoti gupta]

yes sabrina,i also think that we should have confidence to decide for ourselves.seeking the advise of someone other may help you,but many times we see that confusions start when another person enters in the discussion.

[dr.jyoti gupta]

yes dear rekha,giving space to each other brings more life and freshness in mutual relations.

[sunkan]

space in any relationship encourages people to respect each other, and marriage leads in this mode and should be valued as a base so that one can grow in an institution like marriage, two souls are the two wheels if one wobbles the other also will shake..sunkan

[dr.jyoti gupta]

right said,dear sundari,a couple has to balance their marraige as a sea saw.no less,no more.