My MIL

[joelcabar]

My MIL is a good person but she likes to sit and criticize her family. Once she starts it is difficult to stop her. She will talk all sorts of things about her SIL'S,bro n sis and she goes back to them and tells them that I was talking about them and criticizing them.
Funny thing is she comes back and tells me that she told her family that I was talking about them and they are very upset about it.
I dont know how to resolve ths issue.

[sabmeh]

You can talk to her family members and make things clear that you are not the person who sits and talks about them. You cna talk to your MIL and ask her the reason behind her behaviour.

[joelcabar]

Sabmeh, thansk for your advice. My MIL is difficult person to talk to and discuss. She will change the topic and her words as she wants and depending on her mood. You cannot have valid arguments with her.

[mukti]

I think instaed of breaking your head over this issue with your MIL. You should let her family members know what she does behind their back. Do not give so much importance to this issue infront of her. If she relaizes that you are getting bothered by this issue, she will do it more.

[easycrafts]

I feel that u neednt explain to anyone - u know that u are not doing anything wrong..maybe over a period of time, the relatives might also come to know of her nature and stop taking her talk seriously

[joelcabar]

thanks mukti for your advice.
Easycrafts, I guess I will go with your advice of just ignoring her.

[pranati]

Though I am not married and have seen enough of MIL dramas I think you should ignore her. You are not harming anyone and you know what is the truth. And moreover how long she is going to do this one fine day she will also feel tired :) seriously dont take all these to heart and come and enjoy here in NS you read Swap's jokes and other things calm yourself and indulge yourself in some productive things. I mean to say attention divert is the best.

[joelcabar]

thanks sakhis for stepping in. I get less depressed with all my MIL issues. Thanks to all of you for your help.

[sunkan]

dear joelcabar,
recently i heard one lady going to her relative house and eating saying that her dil does not feed again come back and say to the dil that the relative did not give anything and used to load herself a lot and they had a tough time not knowing what to do with her loose motion one day they called up each other and then became cautious like wise when all are there some time bhanda pod is great, though my mil is very good more dear to me sometime forgets who said what so i think all our relatives should not mistake her...kind of a statement might help all to understand in a subtle way...

[joelcabar]

Sunkan, thanks for your advice.
Right now I have suffered so much with her tales that I just gave up. Let people think whatver they want and let her tell what she wants. I would not get bothered. I treat her like a normal human being not too good not too bad.
I cannot be too good to her because of my experiences with her. I dont want to be bad to her becasue after all she is human and hubbys mother.