helping is better than showing mercy..

[radhabhaskar]

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Hi friends....... she is padma/ paddu,

I don't know whether I can post this mail here or not. But she is in need of help from others.. hence I am writing..

Now she is 31, shouldered the responsibility of father, sister, 2 younger brothers.. She was the only earning person in her family. These days her all earning went for her family survive. Now she has decided to marry... Like all other girls she is also dreamed about her wedding life, husband etc.. but her family condition restricted her from every joy and now she is ready to marry a person who is a cook and earns rs.6000/- per month.. hope she will lead a happy life in future...

But...she owns 0 paise for her marriage..you all know the poor will have less relatives.. hence we friends decided to help her a little bit.. I am also helping her from giving a little amount rs.1000/-, one of my friends shalini is helping rs.1000/-, pushpa 500/-, bhagya 500/-.

I request you to help her.. if you wish..

[shalaka39]

Where is she located?

[pranati]

Hey Radha is it like you are helping her with money or we can send something else also for her? Just let me know. Like new saree some basic cosmetics or something else. Just let me know :)

[jampatil]

I feel sarees and cosmetics will help her too. Every bride wants to look her best for wedding.
This is just what I feel but Radha is the right person to answer this question.

[malspie]

Radha

It is a wedding and we need to think bigger...

I would suggest there are many organizations / trust which conduct "Samuha Shaadi" how about contacting them, they will help.

Some of them even give vessels to set up kitchen and some basic clothes too..

Teeny meeny contributions is not going to work out for a wedding...

I would suggest you to contact a trust which organizes such weddings.

[radhabhaskar]

Where is she located?

hai shalaka, thanks for your reply... she is in my place.. Sira, Tumkur district, Karnataka, India..
The groom is from Sagara, Shimoga district, karnataka, India.

[radhabhaskar]

Hey Radha is it like you are helping her with money or we can send something else also for her? Just let me know. Like new saree some basic cosmetics or something else. Just let me know :)

thanks for your concern pranati..
as Mals said... marriage is not a small thing to talk...What we can help?! We can help her giving money, cloths, help in food grain purchase, sponsoring for invitation cards etc..
It is great, you want to help her, you do as you like yaar...

[radhabhaskar]

I feel sarees and cosmetics will help her too. Every bride wants to look her best for wedding.
This is just what I feel but Radha is the right person to answer this question.

Dear Jampatil...in padma's case it is quite ulta...she has to arrange money and other items for her marriage.. Her sister has accepted to help her rs.20000/- and there is no other help from others..
She selected a choultry for rs. 5000/- (accomodation and vessels), cook has accepted to cook at free of cost..
For other expenditures she is struggling to arrange money..

[radhabhaskar]

Radha

It is a wedding and we need to think bigger...

I would suggest there are many organizations / trust which conduct "Samuha Shaadi" how about contacting them, they will help.

Some of them even give vessels to set up kitchen and some basic clothes too..

Teeny meeny contributions is not going to work out for a wedding...

I would suggest you to contact a trust which organizes such weddings.


Mals...thanks yaar...
But that guy family will not accept for samuha shaadi... he is brahmin and she is achar..His family asked do traditional marriage..

And her father without thinking the future, promised the groom a gold ring, watch and cloths.. And this has become hectic for her..

And your suggestion asking sponsorers is very good and I will think in that way.. If you know any such organization pls let me know..here in my city there is no such organization I think...

[malspie]

I will look out and let you know.

In the meantime, as you are already a step ahead in doing social work, how about talking it out to the grooms parents, is it worth spending so much for a cook earning Rs.6K.. We cannot hit him below the belt like that, but can tell them, instead of spending on wedding how about going for "Thali exchange"shaadi in a temple and money arranged can be kept for future security in the name of the bride..

[malspie]

Where is the girl located.. name of the city, town, state....

[malspie]

When you are looking for samuha wedding it will not take place at our will and time.

They organize it on yearly or bi yearly basis and we have to follow some formalities

Here is ONE SUCH PLACE WHICH LOOKS IN TO SAMUHA WEDDING

Though I do not have their contacts at the moment, will be back soon...

DHARMASTHALA, SHREE SHETRA, BELTHANGADI TALUKA, Karnataka.

[malspie]

G T FOUNDATION
Dr. V. Ravichandran (Managing Trustee)
Near Kings Park Layout
Maryhill, Mangalore - 575015
Karnataka, India
Email : ravi@glowtouch.com

I am not sure if they conduct weddings, but you can write to them and do not mention her fathers waste of pride in promising ring etc.. then they will show us the door.

[bela]

Even Arya Samaj conducts wedding for lesser price and sometimes free depending on condition.

[radhabhaskar]

thanks mals... do you know this person?


G T FOUNDATION
Dr. V. Ravichandran (Managing Trustee)
Near Kings Park Layout
Maryhill, Mangalore - 575015
Karnataka, India
Email : ravi@glowtouch.com

I am not sure if they conduct weddings, but you can write to them and do not mention her fathers waste of pride in promising ring etc.. then they will show us the door.

[radhabhaskar]

Hi friends....... don't feel bad after reading this.... I think I have every right to say anything I feel...
When I contacted people for helping her... most responded that why she is spending money for marriage??!! she can marry in a temple/ registrar office etc etc...

It hurt me alot...they did not think she is also a lady with lot of dreams about her marriage... marriage in a temple / registrar office will not bring that satisfaction / happiness obtain from traditional marriage.. Why??? being a poor is that much grave mistake??
people donate for temples construction, festivals etc etc they don't have money for poor...
why we expect others to help.... why can't we help.... that is the tragedy of india....I know some of the people will misutilise the money... but all will not be like that...
Finally I told her... I will collect rs.20000/- .... Rs.10000/- from my NGO & rs.10000/- from my friend's circle which is already collected.

[shaila45]

Radha, you are doing great job here. Everyone has dream and every person has right to dream.

[meena]

Radha, dont worry about people. As many people that many mind sets. People think according to their circumstances.