Possesive MIL

[jampatil]

My MIL is very possesive about my husband, of course her son. If I talk to my hubby or sit next to him infront of her she would not like it.
She does not want me to cook for him or he appreciating my food.
If my hubby is sick she will do everything for him.
I can manage with all this but my real problem is at night she would keep my hubby engaged in some of her life story which will continue for a long time after midnight. If he manaegs to come to bedrrom early she will make some excuse and knock on our door.
I cannot afford to fight with her as it will hurt my husband. please suggest some advice. I am sure i am not the only one with this problem.

[rajmiarun]

How long are you married jampatil? You have not given that detail. Most of the Inlaws are possesive. She is unable to bear you sharing her son, that is the main reason. Just give me one more detial, you mil's day time schedule. If she is sleeping in the day time for a long time, she will not be able to sleep early in the night. I am not asking you to give her heavy work and make her tired, but take her for a walk in the evening; tell her it is an exercise for her and also for you. While going for the walks, you have to make sure that you pamper her, praise her and tell her that she should teach you all about the traditions of this house, (your husband's) never say my husband tell her your son's likes and dislikes etc etc. If you had already known about any of her special skills (may be she is a great cook or may be she can do some art work in an excellent way), praise her skills. Befriend her. This will definitely make her understand that her son is your husband too.

Dont expect the results immediatly. It will take time. But I am sure this technique will work out.

[dr.jyoti gupta]

dear jampatil,
rajmi is correct.this happens to a lot of married couples.so,keep patience.time will surely sort out this problem.
jyoti

[Tweety]

Hi Jampatil,

I think you should ask your husband to sleep with her for some nights.

If you do so, your MIL will know that you are not there to take away her position which she is guarding so well with her aged bones.

Do not worry, you have many nights in your sector, the old bones have very few.

So let her keep him for some days, his biological needs may bring him anyways to you.

Play master games, it works.

[jampatil]

Thanks
Gals for all the tricky tips. I am maried for 3 years. She doesnt like to cook, read or write. She likes to watch TV and get upset after seeing those beautiful BAHUS, decked up in gold and sarees and performing puja.
I guess I can implemet some of the tricks on her.