Thaali/Mangal Sutra

[veebha vinod]

I wonder why do we need to wear the certificate of marriage and not men???

I have thought about it and found that toe rings were the identity of a married man, but how did it changed from men to women???I dont know if iam right or wrong.

In olden days women walk with their heads down, while walking so they will be able to see the toe ring a man wears and identifies that he is married.But it has changed now, does anyone know about this change or am I blabbering here?

One confusion. about the mangal sutra/thali....I've seen many friends who find hard to wear a mangal sutra or have bindhi, they say no it doen not match the dress not trendy,its too big or feeling uncomfortable.But I've seen them wearing big artificial jewellery.When it is possible to wear the artifical worthless thing why is not possible to wear the one which has a cultural value?

I wear the mangal sutra/thali all the time even with other jewellery and have a bindhi(but small)in my forehead even when i wear a western outfit, i'vent found hard or odd for me.Think it is one's comfort.

[sabmeh]

Veebha, I did not know about men wearing toe rings.
I agree with you on wearing mangalsutra. I have also seen womens who feels guilty and bad omen about removing mangalsutra, they pin it to their bra strap from sides. They do this on sarees too. WHY?
I could not find any valid reason for this, They are attending ceremonies where everybody knows them, that they are married. What is the purpose of hidiing mangalsutra?

[dr.jyoti gupta]

veebha,a very nice subject to talk on.i feel that mangal sutra is trendy and glamourous too.even if you do not wear any other jwellery,mangalsutra makes a personality complete.i have made three sets of mangalsutra.one is for daily wear,the other one with a double hooked diamond pendal for parties.the third one as a chain in which i can place any pendal.and,i have never felt a need to buy any other gold,or matching jwellery sets.this piece of JEVAR has ethnic and auspecious value.the grace of married life.

[banishapa]

Kya baat hai Jyoti, you have mangal sutra for evey ocassion.
I feel one should be proud of culture no matter where you are. If you are not wearing mangalsutra out of discomfort it is okay. Not following your culture because soembody else will lok down upon you is very shameful.
I wear mangalsutra everyday, except when its too hot. I have thin small oen for everyday wear and heavy one for ocassions.

Check this beautifukl mangalsutra design (http://www.narisakhi.com/forum/upload/showthread.php?p=5527#post5527)

[surekhapar]

Vebha, I agree with you. Most of the people have lost importance of wearing mangalsutra.
Actually it does not matter to me whether they wear tjhaali or not, it is their personal desicion. I loose my temper when people will look down upon otehrs who follow tradition.

[sulu2000]

Veebha, I guess in olden times all the rules were made by men. They made rules in favor of them. They dont have to wear any wedding signs so they can flirt around whereas they know their wifes are safe with big license hanging around neck.

[easycrafts]

Veebha even I was unaware of this tradition of men wearing toe rings..

We have a tradition of wearing thali in yellow thread that is considered auspicious ..however nowadays everyone has changed it to gold chain for convenience and better looks..

I too have a bindi and thali always-whatever be my costume..I dont feel indifferent wearing it..but like u say have seen people change when they go abroad or to some place where it is not a tradition to wear bindi or mangalsutra..When foreigners dont change their habits when in India, I dont understand why Indians forgo their traditions when they move abroad