rekhagadge

Definetely a girl and her husband is also responsible for taking care of elderly parents..If parents have only girls and no boys then who will have the responsibility to take care during their old age ...I know some ladies who have dumped their in-laws just to take care of their parents since they are the only child or maybe just girls in the family. That is not fair either..Even some girls dump their parents once they are well-settled...Is this the reward for parents who bring up kids spending more than 50% of their life..In this century when girls and boys are treated as equal, there continues to remain bias when it comes to several social issues...Each kid and their spouse must be equally responsible to ensure a memorable old age for their parents just the way parents ensure a memorable childhood for their kids

a trend being followed from decades!daughter is so called PARRAAYA DHANN!so,at marraige,it is tradition to give dowry instead of dividing ancesteral propoerty with her.when the girls are bought up with such mentality,they develop this attitude.they are taught that they di\ont have to peep in parents home.come as visitor,stay and go back to your home.if a girl tries to look after her parents,she is told that she is interfereing.if she is the only daughter,the relatives keep a pressure on her parents not to take her help.and,today still,very few become ghar jawai.if they do so,they are embrassed by family and friends.
which way to go?????

Easycrafts, thanks for stepping in. I dont agree to dumping inalws to take care of parents. Whether it is girl or a boy they have equal responsibility towards each others parents. there are exceptions but general trend in our society is boys parents are given more importance.

Jyoti, one of the reason of giving dowry is sharing part of the property. They did not wanted to share the house so some value of ancestral property was given in the form of dowry.
Jyoti, you have hit the point right "relatives keep a pressure on her parents not to take her help."
It is social norm.

rekhagadge, You have a point but there are exception
It is common norm where if girls do not take care of their parents, it is not looked down where as if as a DIL she does not take care of inlaws, it is looked down upon.

Rekha, I agree with you. It is a big deal if daughter is taking care of parents. Taking care of sons parenst is birth right. There are exceptions but not many.